Hello!I just wanna discuss a simple thing with you.Yes,you,i am talking to you only, whosoever is reading from the other-side of the screen.Have you ever felt that you need to grow up or be more matured than what you were?Have you ever felt scary of being the in-charge of all activities or how to make money to support yourself or to cry out loud of heart break/s but couldn't or tried to suppress your emotions and need just to make others feel happy?Have you just cried nights after nights by holding the other side of pillow and tried not to make any sound so that no-one can understand that you are crying or to just hide your tears by blinking your eye-lashes multiple times?
Most importantly,have you ever thought and stressed yourself by thinking of your future?
If all the above mentioned questions sounds as a "YES",definitely you stepped into ADULTHOOD.I gonna share how i felt to step into ADULTHOOD.
One fine "night" i was just sitting beside my mom and asked mom "What is being Adult mommy?".She just looked at me and told "Baby,it's a word which you cannot explain by words but just you can feel that you are an adult".So i switched to OXFORD DICTIONARY and searched for the meaning, but at that point of time (i.e at the age of 12)it was just a meaning with no sense at all.
At class 7,it was too early to think oneself matured,but still i went through many you tube videos and articles about being matured and i found out person speaking about heart break/s deeply and at that time the hot topic going on and on in the class was classmates talking about "SEX","CONDOM".All I could do was,just to open the OXFORD POCKET DICTIONARY and refer there for the meaning.As soon as i read,i got to know the mystery of behind "Being Adult".I was too happy,and as per my friends 'Adults don't share these stuffs with mom' and i didn't. Then i saw in my school corridor my friends are holding hands of other friends of opposite sex and kissing there cheeks and promising to marry them and even they are just deciding there future children's name and just on the other side few of my friends are crying and throwing slangs to each other.I was very curious as i have heard of LOVE MARRIAGES and YouTube videos speaking about love and maturity. So i decided that the ultimate target of being matured is to date someone and to hide it from parents(because i am grown up and have private space).Then one song came up "TUM HI HO" by Arijit Singh and with the song in air i finally got to date a guy ,a childhood friend of mine but after i completed my higher school degree ,i actually got to understand what the term "ADULTHOOD" means.It's way more than dating,crying or age(Age Is Just A Number XD).Being a girl when finally puberty hit me at class 9,i though i was finally an adult but it's way more than that,now i realize. It's not only speaking with low soft tone and maintaining a well groomed behaviour but understanding yourself as well as speaking to other's by placing words in appropriate way. You need to get through the deeper inner meanings,analyze that what to speak and when to speak.It's taking your own responsibility on your hands and be responsible for what ever that happens with you.
Now i entered my college and yet i am a child having eyes full of dreams and heart full of hopes but day by day the way of watching this world is changing and will keep on.Every day i keep on loosing one or the other from my list may be for the sake of protection of "SELF RESPECT".All i need to believe in myself and be the change i want to see and go out ,explore and do all kinds of experiments i can do.
*EVEN I KNOW THE WRITING ITSELF IS IMMATURE THOUGH IT'S MY FIRST BLOG.HOPE TO GET YOUR'S TRUE OPINION.
Most importantly,have you ever thought and stressed yourself by thinking of your future?
If all the above mentioned questions sounds as a "YES",definitely you stepped into ADULTHOOD.I gonna share how i felt to step into ADULTHOOD.
One fine "night" i was just sitting beside my mom and asked mom "What is being Adult mommy?".She just looked at me and told "Baby,it's a word which you cannot explain by words but just you can feel that you are an adult".So i switched to OXFORD DICTIONARY and searched for the meaning, but at that point of time (i.e at the age of 12)it was just a meaning with no sense at all.
At class 7,it was too early to think oneself matured,but still i went through many you tube videos and articles about being matured and i found out person speaking about heart break/s deeply and at that time the hot topic going on and on in the class was classmates talking about "SEX","CONDOM".All I could do was,just to open the OXFORD POCKET DICTIONARY and refer there for the meaning.As soon as i read,i got to know the mystery of behind "Being Adult".I was too happy,and as per my friends 'Adults don't share these stuffs with mom' and i didn't. Then i saw in my school corridor my friends are holding hands of other friends of opposite sex and kissing there cheeks and promising to marry them and even they are just deciding there future children's name and just on the other side few of my friends are crying and throwing slangs to each other.I was very curious as i have heard of LOVE MARRIAGES and YouTube videos speaking about love and maturity. So i decided that the ultimate target of being matured is to date someone and to hide it from parents(because i am grown up and have private space).Then one song came up "TUM HI HO" by Arijit Singh and with the song in air i finally got to date a guy ,a childhood friend of mine but after i completed my higher school degree ,i actually got to understand what the term "ADULTHOOD" means.It's way more than dating,crying or age(Age Is Just A Number XD).Being a girl when finally puberty hit me at class 9,i though i was finally an adult but it's way more than that,now i realize. It's not only speaking with low soft tone and maintaining a well groomed behaviour but understanding yourself as well as speaking to other's by placing words in appropriate way. You need to get through the deeper inner meanings,analyze that what to speak and when to speak.It's taking your own responsibility on your hands and be responsible for what ever that happens with you.
Now i entered my college and yet i am a child having eyes full of dreams and heart full of hopes but day by day the way of watching this world is changing and will keep on.Every day i keep on loosing one or the other from my list may be for the sake of protection of "SELF RESPECT".All i need to believe in myself and be the change i want to see and go out ,explore and do all kinds of experiments i can do.
*EVEN I KNOW THE WRITING ITSELF IS IMMATURE THOUGH IT'S MY FIRST BLOG.HOPE TO GET YOUR'S TRUE OPINION.
I don't know what to write but as per my view adulthood is such an amazing time period. In this period we became more mature, we get guts to talk with other guys. But their is nothing to do with immaturity. Adulthood is not about changing "you" and became a fully mature person. It is just about experience because one should have all kind of experiences in their life because human learns from their experiences only.
ReplyDeleteLet me tell you a story that I had read once about An 87 Year Old College Student Named 'Rose'
The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know.
I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me
with a smile that lit up her entire being.
She said, “Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?”
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.
“Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.
She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids…”
“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was
introduced and stepped up to the podium.
As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell
you what I know.”
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day.
You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it! There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.
If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old.
If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.
Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change.
Have no regrets.
The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those
with regrets.”
She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.”
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.
At the year’s end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s
never too late to be all you can possibly be .When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they’ll really enjoy it!
These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.
DeleteREMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS
OPTIONAL.
We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.
wow. ..the starting of the blog was definitely something I cluld very well relate to.
ReplyDeleteYeah.
So adulthood is a phase of tremendous mixed emotions and a sense of ownership of your own life.
You are not high on hormones unlike your teenage but you have got your heart and brain this time.
♥️♥️♥️♥️this is just so awesome. Relatable af❣️
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